If you’re dating a ‘loser’, you may recognize in your partner some of these characteristics described by Consulting Clinical Psychologist Joseph M. This article continues with a note on dangerous versions of the ‘loser’ and offers guidelines for detachment.Also see the new “Relationship Quiz: True Love or True Loser?In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal. Your fears and worries compel you to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary.A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me to the main question of this article: Why do men lie? I’m talking about human nature – no one gender is more or less habitually a “liar”.OK, now I want to step back because I can imagine that my points may have enraged certain readers, who are ready to comment with things like, “Why should we have to reward his dumb ass for not lying? My sister, Anne, and I had never been that close until about 5 years before that winter.She was 3 years younger than me and had had to get married at the age of 18 when she fell pregnant.
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
” And “why shouldn’t we put him through hell if the truth is that he’s an jerk?
My husband was wonderful until he quit his job in 2004 trying to become an entreprenuer. Lately its been down and I wish I never married him.
I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…
when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).